Do you know the phrase, Happy wife, happy life?
No matter your relationship status, this is one of the phrases that is ubiquitous toward marriage.
Being married myself, I’d say it has truth, but it’s not complete either. A lady can set the temperature in our homes. When she is loved and cared for, it’s a warm, loving house. That will be a cold house when she’s treated wrong and neglected.
I’m sure in any marriage, there are moments of warmth, and there are moments of cold.
Have you been there?
Marriage is amazing, challenging, thrilling, and other adjectives I can’t think of right now. It’s an opportunity of a lifetime and in it, we’re comforted with ourselves more than anyone else.
In this confrontation we have choices to make.
First, We can ignore what we see and not change anything.
Second, We can blame our spouse and think if they change it will get better.
Third, We can take responsibility and let God help us make adjustments and become better ourselves.
Of course number three is best option and the Jesus option. Because, when we get better, our marriage gets better. Our life gets better and everything in else gets better too.
“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!”2 Corinthians 5:17
So while happy wife happy life has truth in it. A more complete statement is this, when I get better, my marriage will get better.
However, this is easier said than done.
It’s our default to blame others, point fingers, and get stuck on tangents. This is where couples fight about small things while never addressing the main things. It’s where they drift into isolation and becomes islands to themselves.
This is where couples slowly feel the decline of their dreams and hopes as a married couple.
But, if we choose to improve, we can have a different outcome. Getting better ourselves causes us to take responsibility for our actions, point fingers in the mirror and address the real issues in our hearts first, then address the real issues in our marriage.
This is where couples are lifted to a higher purpose and grow in their love for one another.
So, happy wife happy life can happen when we get better, our marriage will get better.
Let God heal you and make you all he’s called you to be. Then, watch him help you have the marriage you dreamed about with a purpose that gives a generational legacy.
Embrace the confrontation in you and watch what God will do!
Have a great day and the best is yet to come,