I believe it’s possible to be healthy and imperfect at the same time. This is because health is not determined on being perfect but rather on being changed through our imperfections by God’s grace.
Therefore, our relationships will always be imperfect, but we can choose them to be healthy.
In truth, too many people live their life in and through toxic relationships. This has many forms but the impact can be overwhelming. In fact, I believe peoples lives and dreams can either be reality or be smashed in and through relationships. This is why it’s so important to choose health in all of our relationships.
So what defines health in relationships?
Godly boundaries are the beginning to healthy relationships. Without them, there can be chaos and drama. Boundaries provide limits or guidelines that create an identity in us and provide safe ways to interact with others and for others to interact with us.
“Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock.”Matthew 7:24
Jesus gives us the promise, as we build our lives through Godly boundaries we are built on a rock and will not be shaken. This is for our marriages, our parenting, our extended family, our professional relationships, and our church communities. Living this way makes it possible to be healthy and imperfect at the same time. It’s amazing grace!
Only God can do this. Only He can give health while being imperfect. We think everything will be great when everything is all right, this is not true. Through our insecurities, our fears and more we can live in health as we have Godly boundaries. It’s the principle of coming to Jesus the way we are. We don’t get cleaned up to come to God but rather we come to God and get cleaned up. We don’t fix our marriage and then give our marriage to God. We give our marriage to God messed up and He heals it and helps us be healthy in our imperfections. So many of us want to fix everything and then give it to God, but God wants us to give Him everything when it’s not fixed because this is when He does His best work.
Our health in God and with others is more about Him doing the work in us verses us getting everything right. The question is, will we let God do something in our lives?
I encourage you today, no matter what you’re facing in your relationships, choose to be healthy. I pray that you have the strength to have hard conversations, to lay out clear boundaries, and to move forward with clear expectations. If you don’t take the time to do this then how can there be clear boundaries in the relationship? Any true friend will respect and honor the boundaries you ask. Please remember that and as you choose to be healthy and imperfect, I believe you’re going to create safe ways to interact with others and others to interact with you.
Isn’t this what we all want?
We all desire health in our marriages, with our kids, on our jobs and beyond. However, this starts with Godly boundaries. Be determined to build your life on Jesus! Live by His principles and believe His teachings to be truth. Take the time to lay out boundaries and confront what needs to be confronted. Receive it when you are confronted and be humble before God and others. This is where we will win. This is where we will thrive. This is where we be healthy and imperfect at the same time.
He is for you and He wants you to do well in relationships. Let Him in! Let Him help with boundaries and see His health expand in you.
Have a great week and the best is yet to come.