God, where do I fit in? This question is huge as we navigate life. Despite our age we all desire to fit in somewhere. This isn’t wrong, as God made us to have community with one another. The struggle is that we make it hard on each other to fit in.
The criteria to fit in can be predicated on one’s clothes, titles, economic status, popularity, or even their social media clout. How sad, as all these things and more are fickle. If we are honest, even for Christians, they determine at times if we fit in or not.
The statement, “Hurt people hurt people” is true, especially when it comes to fitting in.
We’ve all been rejected at some level in our lives, which leaves us timid to reach out but still desiring to fit in. Have you been there? Unfortunately, it seems most of us have been rejected many times over, leaving us calloused and skeptical even when it comes to Church and Christian relationships. This should not be, but it’s a part of navigating life and we must learn to overcome it.
As a leader and pastor, I have been rejected by other leaders and other pastors, as well as people that don’t proclaim Christ as their Savior. Yet, I must move forward knowing what others think about me does not define who I am. Only God defines me. I’ve also found that He is faithful to send people into my life that value me and allow me to fit in with them. True friends are a great treasure to have.
So, what do we do with this issue? It’s not going to go away. People will exude different attitudes that could cause different responses, but we can’t live our lives based on what other people do. Therefore, we must stand on the word of God as the basis of our value to overcome the broken system we operate in as people.
The truth is, we all fit in through Christ. If we as believers don’t fully embrace our identity as children of God, we become vulnerable to allowing our circumstances and other people determine our identity and self-worth. Instead, we must base ourselves in Christ and what He says about you and me.
The Bible says in 1 Peter 2:9-10,
“But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, and God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for He called you out of the darkness into His wonderful light. Once you had no identity as a people; now you are God’s people. Once you received no mercy; now you have received God’s mercy.”1 Peter 2:9-10
Notice what God says about you and me.
We are a chosen people. That tells me we fit in and that He accepts you and I for who we are. Be encouraged that you are chosen, and that you have a place in the Father’s house. No matter what anyone says, you are someone to Jesus.
Then He says, we are a royal priesthood. This tells me that we have a mission and a purpose in Jesus. We are empowered to represent Him through our lives and to help others find Him. Jesus thinks of us in terms of value and great worth, so much that He put His spirit in our lives to do something for His kingdom.
God trusts you and me.
He goes on to say, we’re His possession and a holy nation. God has captured our heart and we freely give our lives to Him. He possesses us not out of jealousy but out of empowerment for His glory. We belong to God and we fit in with Jesus; therefore, we can choose to find worth through Him.
Then God gives context. He tells them they once were not a people and did not have an identity but now they are the people of God. I love this, as it speaks to where we’ve come from and who we are now. You see maybe we were nobody. Maybe we were a loser. Maybe we didn’t fit in. Maybe we weren’t popular. But God has now changed our lives and made us someone through Him. Our identity should never be an issue of pride but rather of humility and worship knowing who we are.
God, where do I fit in?
You fit in with Jesus. You fit in with His church. You’re a part of the body of Christ. He has good friends for you that will empower you to fit in and to be yourself. He has something great for you. You’re a part of something bigger than yourself and the best is yet to come.
I encourage you that God is for you and who can be against you. I challenge you today to overcome those that may have rejected you or made you feel insecure in your identity. God is much greater and He has a purpose past where we fit in or not. You and I cannot afford to live in the shadows of rejection based on superficial things that don’t matter. We are accepted by the King of kings and Lord of lords and we matter to God. He will do amazing things through us.
I pray that you will be healed of any scars or pain from not fitting in. I pray that you will rise in confidence knowing your value and knowing what you bring to the table. I pray that you see what God sees in you and that you move forward in faith. I pray that you will be strong in your identity, being who He’s called you to be.
May you take your seat at His table and may you fulfill His plan.
Have a great week and you fit in with us,